Dr. Paul J. Melrose



















Real Soution: Assertiveness

Most people can be assertive in some situations, and yet be ineffectual in others. The Real Solution Assertiveness Program expands the number of situations in which you can choose to be assertive. When a person is passive, opportunities are lost and unpleasant situations are tolerated. In time, bad feelings can build to a point where one more event can trigger an explosion of resentment that in turn provokes criticism or rejection. Graduated homework assignments allow participants to apply their newly acquired skills. The Real Solution Assertiveness Program emphasizes the building of assertiveness skills, using model presentation, rehearsal, positive feedback, prompting, and homework assignments.

Skills and concepts

  • Learn to Identify your own behavior as Assertive, Aggressive, or Passive
  • Three Modes of Communicating
  • Learn to distinguish between the Three Modes of Communicating
  • Defining criteria for measuring change in Assertive Behavior
  • Basic premises underlying the Three Modes of Communicating
  • Identifying traditional assumptions and Countering with Assertive Rights
  • Broken Record Technique
  • Confronting your fears about being Assertive
  • Criticism as Manipulation
  • Acknowledgment
  • Clouding
  • Probing
  • Content-to-Process shift
  • Time Out
  • Slowing Down
  • Assertive Position Statement
  • Assertive Listening
  • Assertive Position Statement - Expressing and Listening
  • Workable Compromise
Goals:
  • To learn Assertive Communication Skills used in a variety of settings to improve your relationships both work and personal
  • To distinguish Assertiveness from Aggressive and Passive communication
  • To distinguish Assertive rights from myths about assertive behavior
  • To explore your fears about being Assertive
The Real Solution Assertiveness Program uses a skill building format and each new skill relies, to some extent, on what has previously been learned, therefore participants are strongly encouraged to attend all 12 sessions. The sessions begin and end on time. You are encouraged to do homework assignments.

Interested persons schedule an initial 45 minute individual appointment to discuss the process and feasibility of their participation. The Real Solution Assertiveness Program is most useful for those willing to honestly examine and recognize the consequences of their problem.

  • Individual Program: 12 sessions, each lasting 45 minutes.
  • Workbook: designed for use with the Individual program but can be used separately. The Workbook contains all of the Skills and Concepts, exercises, and homework assignments used in The Assertiveness Individual Program.
Real Solution: Assertiveness

Dr. Paul Melrose offers The Real Solution Assertiveness program in partnership with its developer, Richard Pfeiffer MDiv, CGP.



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